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Why The Odyssey Matters Now

Why The Odyssey Matters Now

by | Jul 20, 2026 | Essays on Living, Choral Energy, Cosmoartistic Anthropology, Existential Personalistic Anthropology

The Barbault Basket, Christopher Nolan, Antonio Mercurio, and the Future We Choose

There are moments in history when seemingly unrelated events converge in ways that invite us to pause and reflect.

Whether we understand such moments as meaningful coincidences, synchronicities, or simply the unpredictable intersections of history, they have the power to awaken our imagination and encourage us to ask larger questions.

Over these last few days, one such convergence caught my attention.

At the very time astrologers have identified as the center of the extraordinarily rare planetary configuration known as the Barbault Basket, Christopher Nolan released his long-awaited adaptation of The Odyssey, one of the foundational myths of Western civilization.

No one can say whether these two events are objectively connected. Nor, I believe, is that the most interesting question.

The more interesting question is this:

Why does The Odyssey matter now? 

Why has this ancient story returned so powerfully to our collective imagination, to our cultural zeitgeist, at a moment when humanity finds itself confronting unprecedented environmental, political, technological, and moral challenges?

Perhaps great myths never truly belong to the past.

Perhaps they return whenever we need them most.

For more than thirty years, I have read The Odyssey through the work of Professor Antonio Mercurio, the Italian founder of Existential Personalistic Anthropology. Mercurio was convinced that beneath its adventures, Homer’s epic expressed a profound exploration of human transformation.

For Mercurio, Ulysses’ journey was never simply about returning to Ithaca.

It was about becoming capable of freeing ourselves of all the obstacles we can be faced with when trying to become capable of truly loving ourselves and others, while being of service to life.

The monsters, temptations, storms, and shipwrecks were not merely external obstacles. They represented the inner forces that prevent us from becoming fully human: narcissism, unconscious repetition, fear, domination, and our inability to enter into relationships based on mutual freedom rather than possession.

His reading transformed my understanding of the poem.

Yet as I watched Christopher Nolan’s remarkable film, I realized that something else had moved me even more deeply.

Throughout the film, Ulysses is haunted—not by his enemies—but by the suffering he himself has caused.

The destruction of Troy is not presented as a glorious triumph.

It is a wound. By the end of the film, Ulysses’ mind has started going back to the moments when his deceit causes the deaths of so many – all of this caused by the deceitful giving of a gift, something that upends the natural order, or, as Ulysses says in the film “the law of Zeus”.

The deaths of his companions are not simply the inevitable casualties of war.

They weigh upon him. Again and again we see a man who is no longer celebrating his victories but struggling to live with their consequences.

To me, this is the film’s greatest achievement.

Nolan has not simply retold Homer’s story.

He has given us a new vision of what it means to be a hero.

For centuries, Western culture has admired heroes because they conquered. Because they defeated their enemies. Because they proved their strength.

Nolan’s Ulysses offers a different possibility.

His greatness does not lie in his victories.

It lies in his capacity for remorse.

Not remorse that becomes shame or self-hatred.

But remorse that awakens consciousness.

Remorse that allows him to recognize the humanity of those who suffered because of his own actions.

That, to me, is the beginning of true transformation.

Perhaps this is also why the theme of xenia—hospitality and the gift it implies – occupies such an important place in the film.

In Homer’s world, hospitality was not merely good manners.

It was one of the foundations of civilization.

To welcome the stranger before asking who they were was to acknowledge a shared humanity greater than fear.

Today that ancient virtue feels astonishingly contemporary.

We live in an age marked by war, mass migration, deep political polarization often around how countries want to close their doors to the influx of ‘strangers’, and growing suspicion of those who are different from ourselves.

Hospitality, which also implies an understanding that we all have equal standing on the planet tht we share, as well as equal responsibility, is no longer simply an ancient Greek ideal.

It has become one of the defining ethical questions of our own time.

As I write these words, I cannot even step outside my own home and breathe freely.

For days, smoke from immense Canadian forest fires has drifted across Wisconsin, turning the sky into a pale gray veil and making the air hazardous to breathe.

The smoke is more than an inconvenience.

It is a daily reminder that the consequences of human actions do not remain confined to one place, and in the case of global warming, they truly do affect us all. They travel. They cross borders. They enter our lungs, inhibiting our ability to breathe – which ultimately affects our very survival.

They become part of our lives.

Like Ulysses, humanity is beginning to discover that what we do to others—and to the living world—ultimately returns to us.

Perhaps this is why the convergence of the Barbault Basket and Nolan’s The Odyssey has affected me so deeply.

Not because I believe astrology predicts history.

But because symbolic moments sometimes invite us to look at reality with new eyes and to use the information we can gather to make new choices.

Whether or not one finds meaning in the Barbault Basket itself is ultimately a personal matter.

For me, it has become an invitation to pause and ask whether humanity may be standing at one of those rare thresholds where an old way of being has reached its limits, and a new one struggles to be born.

If so, then perhaps the question The Odyssey asks today is not whether we can win.

It is whether we can change, and what our values truly are.

Whether we can look honestly at the suffering we have caused—to one another, to other peoples, to other species, and to the Earth itself—and allow that recognition to transform us.

The film’s closing moments seem to embody precisely this possibility. Rather than ending with conquest or restoration, Nolan gives us something far more moving.

Penelope does not simply welcome Ulysses home; she invites him to sail with her into the future. Together they choose to face the unknown, honor the dead, and create a new life together.

It is an extraordinary ending because it refuses the fantasy that life can simply return to what it once was.

Both have been transformed.

Neither wishes to recover the old world.

Instead, they set sail together carrying memory, grief, responsibility, and a decision to love and to create something new.

To me, this is not only the conclusion of Ulysses’ journey.

It is a vision of what our own civilization might yet become.

Not a civilization that glorifies domination.

Not one that measures greatness by conquest.

But one mature enough to remember, and to feel remorse.

Mature enough to allow remorse to become not an endless expiation, but the beginning of wisdom.

Perhaps this is why The Odyssey has returned to us now.

Not to teach us how to conquer.

But to remind us that the highest achievement of a human being is not victory over others.

It is the courage to become someone who can create beauty after suffering, hospitality after fear, and love after violence.

If Antonio Mercurio was right, Ulysses’ greatest journey was never across the Mediterranean.

It was the journey from unconsciousness to consciousness; from domination to relationship; from power over self and others, to the exquisite kind of power we all have to choose to develop love.

If Christopher Nolan’s film is any indication, perhaps that is the journey humanity itself is now being invited to undertake.

And perhaps there could be no more fitting story for this extraordinary moment in history.

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Collective Unconscious or Morphic Fields? Two Ways of Understanding Human Connectedness

by | Jul 11, 2026 | Essays on Living, Existential Personalistic Anthropology, Family, Family Constellations, The wisdom of the body, Whole-Person Counseling and LifeArt Consulting

This article grew out of some reflections I shared in my essay When Ideas Appear at the Same Time in Different Places. It began as an AI-generated research summary, which I have reviewed, corrected, and edited. I am sharing it as a concise introduction to two fascinating theories rather than as original scholarship.

Understanding Jung’s Collective Unconscious

Carl Jung’s concept of the collective unconscious represents a significant aspect of his analytical psychology. Unlike the personal unconscious, which is unique to each individual and formed through personal experiences, the collective unconscious refers to a deeper level of the unconscious mind that is shared by all members of a species. It contains universal symbols and archetypes, which Jung described as inherited structures intrinsic to humanity, transcending cultural and individual differences.

These archetypes include motifs such as the Hero, the Mother, and the Shadow, which reflect the shared experiences and emotions present in human societies.

The implications of the collective unconscious extend beyond the individual psyche; they manifest in collective behaviors, beliefs, and the shared mythologies that form the cultural bedrock of societies across the globe.

Jung posited that this metamorphic field is responsible for the connections between people throughout the world, fostering understanding and cooperation, as these archetypes resonate with the shared human experience. The concept suggests that individuals are influenced by these deep-rooted symbols, shaping their emotions and behaviors in ways that can often be unconscious.

This idea aligns with a phenomenological approach, as it emphasizes the importance of subjective experience and shared human structures in understanding psychological phenomena. By recognizing these universal aspects of our consciousness, we can begin to appreciate the fractals of ideas and behaviors that connect us as a species.

Jung’s theory serves as a foundation for understanding how cultural narratives are formed and maintained over time, allowing us to analyze the ways in which we are linked through our shared unconscious heritage. In essence, the collective unconscious provides a framework for exploring the underlying patterns that influence both individual and societal dynamics.

Rupert Sheldrake’s Morphic Fields: An Overview

Rupert Sheldrake’s theory of morphic fields presents a revolutionary perspective on how nature and behavior are influenced by fields that store collective memories of species. According to Sheldrake, these morphic fields exist in a realm akin to the collective unconscious described by Carl Jung, as both suggest that there is a shared reservoir of knowledge that influences behavior across species.

However, Sheldrake diverges from Jung by introducing the concept of morphic resonance, which posits that these fields are not static but dynamic, capable of evolving over time as they encapsulate the experiences and behaviors of individual creatures within a species. This idea has significant implications, especially in understanding how patterns of behavior can repeat across generations without direct genetic influence.

The concept of morphic fields extends beyond mere behavioral patterns to suggest that they also play a crucial role in evolution. Sheldrake proposes that these fields help facilitate the development of new traits and behaviors through the collective experiences of past generations.

This challenges traditional views of evolutionary biology, where changes are primarily attributed to genetic mutations and natural selection. Instead, Sheldrake argues for a phenomenological approach, emphasizing the intricate web of connections between people throughout the world and species as they draw upon historical memories preserved in morphic fields.

Moreover, Sheldrake’s theory resonates with the notion of fractals of ideas and behaviors, highlighting how specific patterns repeat across different scales and contexts. Sheldrake’s morphic fields also provide a framework for understanding family constellations, as they suggest that behaviors and experiences may reverberate through familial lines, influenced by shared history.

Ultimately, Sheldrake’s morphic fields challenge established scientific paradigms, inviting researchers to explore the interconnectedness of all life forms and the ways in which knowledge and behavior are transmitted through these profound collective dimensions.

Comparative Analysis: Synergies and Divergences

The theories of Jung’s collective unconscious and Sheldrake’s morphic fields offer intriguing perspectives on the shared experiences and memories that permeate human consciousness and, arguably, other forms of life as well. At the core of Jung’s collective unconscious lies the assertion that there exists a repository of archetypal images and narratives that shapes human behavior across cultures and generations. This idea emphasizes a shared mental landscape that connects individuals through time and space. It is this collective repository that informs dreams, myths, and even instincts, creating a common thread among people worldwide.

On the other hand, Sheldrake’s morphic fields propose that patterns of behavior, knowledge, and memory are transmitted not through the conventional biological processes but rather through these fields which enable a form of memory that transcends individuals. In this view, learning and habits are not solely the results of direct experience but are influenced by these higher-order patterns. Thus, the morphic field serves as a connecting framework through which behavioral patterns emerge and evolve, akin to the fractals of ideas and behaviors that manifest across various species.

Despite these similarities, the two theories diverge significantly in their acceptance within the scientific community. Jung’s collective unconscious has encountered its share of skepticism and has often remained within the realm of psychology and philosophy, whereas Sheldrake’s morphic fields are viewed with even more caution, often critiqued for their lack of empirical support.

Furthermore, the metaphysical implications of these theories lead to different interpretations regarding the nature of memory and consciousness. While Jung’s unraveling of the unconscious emphasizes psychological integration, Sheldrake’s approach hints at a more interconnected universe, underscoring the phenomenological approach in understanding the connections between people throughout the world. The analysis of these theories reveals a complex landscape of consciousness that invites further exploration and discussion.

The Relevance of Jung and Sheldrake in Today’s Context

Jung’s idea posits that beneath the individualized consciousness exists a shared reservoir of experiences, memories, and archetypes common to all humanity.

This collective unconscious serves as a framework through which we can discuss the connections between people throughout the world, helping to explain shared symbols in art, myth, and religious practices.

As mental health practitioners increasingly adopt a phenomenological approach, they draw upon Jung’s ideas to better understand their clients within the broader context of societal influences and historical narratives.

Moreover, the relevance of Rupert Sheldrake’s concept of morphic fields resonates in the fields of biology and psychology. Sheldrake proposes that these fields govern the patterns and tendencies of behavior and development, influencing how organisms interact within their environments.

The concept of a metamorphic field extends beyond biology, suggesting that learning and behaviors are not merely learned individually but are shared among populations, echoing Jung’s collective unconscious.

By exploring metamorphic fields and family constellations, practitioners can address familial patterns and behaviors that transcend individual experiences, bringing to light their roots in collective memory.

As we navigate an increasingly complex world characterized by rapid technological advancement and global interconnectedness, Jung and Sheldrake’s theories provide essential perspectives on understanding consciousness, community, and individual identity.

Their ideas invite us to consider the fractals of ideas and behaviors that shape our experiences, hinting at a collective tapestry of human existence woven through shared memories and social interaction. The implications of these theories encourage a reflection on how we relate to one another, further enriching our comprehension of humanity in the modern age.

 

Why We Repeat the Same Patterns Even When We Know Better

Why We Repeat the Same Patterns Even When We Know Better

by | Jun 26, 2026 | Essays on Living, Existential Personalistic Anthropology, Family Constellations, Services

Have you ever found yourself saying,

“I knew this would happen.”

Or perhaps,

“Why do I keep ending up in the same situation?”

Most of us assume that once we understand something intellectually, we should naturally be able to change it. Yet life often tells a different story. We may recognize an unhealthy relationship, an exhausting work pattern, or a familiar emotional reaction, and still find ourselves repeating it.

This can leave us feeling frustrated, ashamed, or convinced that we simply lack enough willpower.

But what if repeating old patterns is not a sign of weakness or failure?

What if it is an invitation to understand ourselves more deeply?

We are shaped by more than conscious choice

Our lives are influenced by far more than our thoughts. We are shaped by our families, our early experiences, our relationships, our bodies, and often by patterns that were already present long before we were born.

Many of these influences operate quietly, beneath conscious awareness.

This is one reason insight alone is not always enough.

We may understand why we behave as we do and yet still feel pulled toward familiar ways of responding because they have become deeply woven into our lives.

Over the years, I have been struck by how many people come into counseling believing they simply lack willpower or are somehow “doing life wrong.” Yet as we begin exploring their family history, early relationships, and deeper emotional patterns, what once felt like a personal failure often begins to make much more sense. Understanding these patterns does not remove responsibility. Rather, it offers us greater freedom to respond to life with awareness, compassion, and choice.

Familiar does not always mean healthy

Human beings are naturally drawn toward what feels familiar.

Sometimes what feels familiar is loving, supportive, and life-giving.

At other times, what feels familiar may include criticism, emotional distance, over-responsibility, self-sacrifice, or the feeling that our worth depends upon meeting the expectations of others.

Without realizing it, we may recreate these experiences—not because we enjoy suffering, but because they have become the world we know.

Until these deeper patterns become visible, they often continue to shape our choices.

Bringing hidden patterns into awareness

One of the reasons I value Family Constellations is that they invite us to explore the larger family system in which we developed. Rather than focusing solely on the individual, they offer an opportunity to become more aware of unconscious loyalties, unresolved losses, and relationship patterns that may continue to influence our lives in ways we have never fully recognized.

This is not about blaming our families. Our parents—and their parents before them—were also shaped by beliefs, wounds, and ways of relating that were passed from one generation to the next.

Recognizing this does not mean that people are not responsible for the harm they may have caused. It does, however, invite us to see them within the larger context of their own lives and the family patterns that shaped them. This understanding does not excuse harmful behavior, but it can help us release unresolved pain, resentment, and misplaced guilt. As we become freer from these burdens, we are often better able to make conscious choices rather than unconsciously repeating the very patterns we long to leave behind.

Ultimately, Family Constellations are not about assigning blame or becoming trapped in the past. They are about seeing more clearly. When what has remained hidden begins to come into awareness, new possibilities for understanding, healing, and change can emerge. By understanding the forces that have shaped us, we become freer to respond to life with greater awareness, compassion, and intention, creating lives that are guided less by unconscious repetition and more by conscious choice.

Change begins with curiosity

Real and lasting change rarely begins with self-criticism.

More often, it begins with curiosity.

Instead of asking,

“What’s wrong with me?”

we might begin asking,

“What is this pattern trying to show me?”

That simple shift can transform the way we relate to ourselves. Rather than seeing ourselves as broken or defective, we begin to see ourselves as human beings whose lives have been shaped by experiences, relationships, and family histories that deserve to be understood with honesty and compassion.

Understanding the past is not about remaining focused on it. It is about becoming freer to create a different future—one guided not by unconscious repetition, but by greater awareness, authenticity, and love.

An Invitation

If you find yourself returning to the same relationship patterns, emotional struggles, or life situations despite your best intentions, perhaps it is time to explore them from a different perspective.

Upcoming Family Constellations Workshops:

On Saturday, July 18 the In-Person Familt Constellations Workshop will be held indoors, at 405 E Forest St in Oconomowoc, WI from 10-12:30.

On Sunday, August 23, I’ll be facilitating a Family Constellations Workshop in Southern Kettle Moraine State Park. Together we’ll explore how our family systems may continue to influence our lives and how greater awareness can open the door to new possibilities.

For those who wish, the morning will begin with an optional Guided Nature Immersion, offering a quiet opportunity to arrive more grounded and present before the workshop begins.

I’d love to welcome you.

If you’d like to learn more about Family Constellations or my upcoming workshop, click here.

 

And … I’d love to continue the conversation.

If this essay resonated with you, I invite you to share your thoughts or experiences in the comments below. Your reflections may also encourage others on their own journey.

Love,

Martha

The Double Spiral in Psychological and Spiritual Healing and Resilience

by | Feb 15, 2026 | Life as a Gift and a Work of Art, Blog, Essays on Living, Existential Personalistic Anthropology, Family, Love, Psychology, Self-Love and Self-Care, Tools, Whole-Person Counseling and LifeArt Consulting

I have been thinking a lot about the symbol I chose for my new logo – the Double Spiral.

Symbols have been used by humans for millennia to elicit associations within our minds that then trigger thoughts, feelings and even actions.

Today the double spiral might not be as familiar to us as other symbols, such as religious ones like the cross for Christianity, or the 6 pointed star for Judaism, or – to use a modern symbol well known throughout the world, the golden arches of a fast food chain that tells us many things about modern culture (i.e. the speed that food can be prepared and served is more important than the quality of the food itself, etc.).

Nonetheless, although you may have never really noticed it before, the double spiral is an incredibly ancient symbol, and has been used by various cultures throughout the world through the millennia to inspire reflection on the continuous flow of opposites that we experience in our lives: day and night/light and darkness, life and death, the masculine principle and the feminine principle, what we experience inside ourselves and what instead we perceive coming from outside ourselves, etc. etc..

Sometimes it is shown lying horizontally, symbolizing the rising and setting of the sun, and thus the constant flow of life from day, to night, or from the birth of life to the end of it.

When it is instead depicted as in my logo, with its spiraling arms reaching up and down, it elicits a more psychological and spiritual idea of

the deeper we go in understanding our own inner selves, the roots of our lives in our experiential histories and realities, the higher we can go in our ability to experience the truth of life and the joy and “enlightenment” – literally reaching the light – that brings.

In other words, it urges us to remember that when we dig deep into the causes that lie behind our current experience of the world, good or bad, we become free and energized to experience the upward motion of the spiral, towards the light.

In essence, this simple symbol is telling us:

The deeper we dive into our darkness – the painful memories of past traumas, harms and hurts received that continue to drive our reactions in the present; the unaddressed mistakes and weaknesses we have shown; our repressed and often misplaced guilt and shame for our desires and dreams we were taught were wrong; the unprocessed anger and rage that we rightly felt as helpless children when we were harmed by our caregivers or by life itself, and that must be acknowledged and released in healthy ways because otherwise it poisons us – the more enlightened we can become.

The more we journey into our depths so we can embrace and heal the pain that lies hidden there, the freer we become to experience the Beauty of Life.

And not only does it remind us that the deeper we go, the higher we go; it also reminds us that this movement is constant, and does not necessarily happen at the same time. It requires that each movement is experienced separately.

We dive down: we are brought into feelings of pain, depression, despair, anger and rage, etc. by events in life or by our memories. We are flooded with all those difficult emotions; we are sometimes quite literally dragged through their “mud”.

But if we find the courage and the right kind of guidance, we can wade through it and gain important insights along the way. We can find new energy to make new choices and move back up towards the light. We can let go of our addictive patterns that keep us enslaved to unhealthy ways of thinking and acting, to toxic relationships, and all the other ways that the pain of our past continues to play out in our present.

And we move upward, toward the light of new understanding, new levels of love for ourselves, of responsibility and freedom and even joy.

Until the next time we need to dive back down, to release a bit more of our painful histories, or even some of the ancestral trauma we carry within our own hearts and minds. As we do so, the pain can still be great: the deeper we go, the deeper the pain can actually be.

But, the more adept we become at diving into old pain or even the new pain that can come through the kinds of losses and challenges we face in our current lives, the better we get at working through it, and deciding to use this complex energy to make new decisions, to create something new, to rise back up, within ourselves, towards the light.

This is a fine Art; it is the Art of transforming our pain into new life, our failures into new decisions, our traumas into new abilities to love ourselves and others in healthier, more evolved and enlightened ways.

And as we learn this delicate, difficult and yet incredibly inspiring Existential Art of dancing along the double spiral, we create our own Lives as a Work of Art. We become living examples of Life in how it transforms itself and how love and new, enlivened energies can truly be born from the deepest pits of desperation, destruction and despair.

I first learned about this symbol during a supervision I was doing with Antonio Mercurio. I was feeling a lot of despair for how hard it still was for me sometimes, even after decades of very intensive work on myself, to feel any kind of consistent levity of spirit. I was still often on the verge of despair, struggling inside myself to feel any real love for myself or my life. The pain of my early abandonment was still affecting me in many different ways, and it seemed as though my inability to “just get over it” was a clear indication of a failure on my part.

Antonio, instead, assured me that this was not the case. That if I was feeling that much pain, there were still lessons to be learned for it, that I simply was being invited to continue to dive in, and build those internal “muscles” I needed to be able to feel it all, and slowly release it. That if I had suffered so terribly, it meant that I was sensitive, not stupid, and that today my task was to be able to embrace these wounded parts of myself and love them back to health.

And then he told me about the Double Spiral, that he himself had learned about while reading Reinhold Niebuhr, and that had also helped him in his own journey, which was equally challenging, as he, too, was often drawn in very deeply and invited by his Self to clear out every little speck of fear, anger, lack of trust towards life, resentment and hatred and all the rest.

He encouraged me to spend some time and perhaps draw or paint this symbol, and he reminded me that I was not alone in my journey.

I indeed sat down right away after my session, and attempted to create an image that could express this concept of a double spiral where one arm reached down into the pits of my pain, and the other instead circled upwards, towards ever-higher and lighter feelings of freedom, creativity, presence and love. Those early attempts were pretty rudimentary and certainly nothing to show others, but they had a cathartic effect on me.

Sometime later, I found out that Niebuhr not only talked about the double spiral, but that he was also attributed with writing the Serenity Prayer, used widely first in Alcoholics Anonymous, and later in all the 12 step programs that followed in its footsteps. Today, the Serenity Prayer is something that many people here in the USA know about, even if they don’t know the actual prayer itself.

As a recovering person myself, I already knew the Serenity Prayer by heart, and for years I had considered it, and the 12 step approach, the second “pillar” of my own personal healing and evolution, along with the first which was my journey in Existential Personalistic and Cosmoartistic Anthropology.

I consider my path in EPA, in fact, the doorway that made it possible for me to not only develop myself professionally and become a counselor in that method as well as a licensed psychologist: perhaps most importantly, it opened my eyes, my heart and my mind to the reality of the spiritual dimension, and to the opportunity to develop this part of my Self without necessarily having to adhere to any kind of religion.

It helped me begin to open to broader concepts of “god” beyond those I had been raised with and that I had rejected many years before, which in turn allowed me to open up to the 12 step approach, and finally achieve lasting release from various ways my compulsive disorder had “disordered” me throughout my life.

These two pillars, in fact, along with then many other techniques that I have picked up along the way, continue to guide me as I go through my life, through the constant cycles of dipping down into the darkness of my personal and ancestral and even the collective history of humanity, to then lift back up into new levels of inspiration, love of myself of others and of life, of an increasing ability to receive the goodness and beauty that is also here, and to use the entirety of my journey as a service to the whole.

May you also find the strength and courage that you need to dive deep and embrace your wounds with loving compassion, so you can then rise back into your life with increasing confidence and wholeness.

It is not an easy journey, I know well – but undertaking a journey with the help and guidance of others who are doing it themselves, and who have also devoted considerable time, energy and money to learn how to help others, is truly an incredible experience.

That is what I decided to do, back in January of 1990 …. and since that moment, my life has taken a completely different trajectory than it would have otherwise.

I chose to heed the call of my soul to dive in deep…. and while the effort required to become truly Alive, no longer medicating myself or running from the pain in other ways, has sometimes felt daunting and impossible, it has brought me to a quality of life – both inner and outer – that I would have never dreamed possible.

Yes, it might mean feeling some pain sometimes, still …. and even feeling hopeless; when I am down in that lower spiral, it can still sometimes feel endlessly dark, lonely, and without any real purpose.

But with practice, I have learned that every dip “down” truly is followed by insights that then allow me to make new choices and move back up to the ascending spiral, and reach ever greater integration, awareness, agency and creativity. Joy.

It does take effort, and today I now know without any doubt that no one can do this work but me. We are each called to embrace our own lives, our own souls, and choose what we are going to do.

Every day we have a choice:

are we going to choose despair and hopelessness, or entrust ourselves completely to the beliefs and whims of others?

Even well meaning family, friends, medical professionals or even apps designed to rewire our brains cannot do the inner work for us. (And while yes, our brains need to be rewired and there is no question that using apps can help us “reprogram” ourselves, they can not give us the love we desperately need, that we can only receive from other beings that are alive and can engage in emotionally energized exchanges with us).

Or are we going to dive in, and choose to take new action and connect with others who can help us learn how to love ourselves, our lives, and Life itself in new, more life-enhancing ways – not because they are telling us what to do out of text-book learning (even though the learning is valid and important – but alone it is not infused with the emotional value of experience, which develops empathy and compassion), but because they know what the journey is like?

There are many ways we can choose Life over remaining stuck and suffering. Today, thanks to the many developments in psychological and spiritual understandings, informed also (but not replaced by) the incredible technological advances we are benefitting from, we have all kinds of philosophies, therapeutic approaches, practitioners and options to choose from.

For me, the one that has always excited me the most, and has offered a foundation for my own personal and professional growth even while exploring many other fascinating and helpful techniques (such as Family Constellations and Evolutionary/Transformational Astrology and Human Design), is Antonio Mercurio’s ideas around Life as a Work of Art (the link will take you to a page describing my new workshop – check it out, it might be a great way to start your journey), and if you have found my site, welcome.

I hope you find some inspiration and if you are looking for guidance and support I am more than happy to explore if working together could be a good fit.

Contact me to set up a free 15 minute chat, or you are also welcome to send me an email with any questions you may have. I always answer my emails, and usually manage to find time for sessions quite quickly, within a couple/few weeks at most. I look forward to hearing from you, and in any case wish you the very best in your own journey of healing, self discovery and unfoldment.

Life is Beautiful, and it is waiting for you.

 

 

When Ideas Appear at the Same Time in Different Places

by | Jun 1, 2025 | Psychology, Cosmoartistic Anthropology, Essays on Living, Existential Personalistic Anthropology, The wisdom of the body

Over the past week I have had a truly interesting experience that has caused me to wonder a lot about what the collective unconscious is, how it relates to morphic fields, and how both of them become observable in daily life. 

 During a session with a client, I found myself compelled to combine two techniques that I am specialized in – Family Constellations and Inner Child/Inner Family work. It was an intuition I had in the moment, where it seemed that the best way to help my client really feel what was going on in the issue they had presented was to help them see, contemporaneously, both the larger picture of the situation with the help of Family Constellations, and the internal aspects of those wounded parts that were connected to their early childhood experiences.

 

It was a powerful experience both for me, and my client, and I found myself pondering this in the days to come, feeling that I had reached a new level of understanding in my own personal journey and in how I can best help those that come to me for help in navigating the complexities of healing our woundedness, stepping into feeling more empowered in how we can create a truly fulifilling life, and in simply being human.

I then participated in a Family Constellations workshop, where there were also several other participants who are therapists of varying sorts. I found myself almost gasp out loud when first one, then another, and then a third shared about how they have recently been integrating Inner Child and Internal Family Systems work with Family Constellations!

What I found unusual was not so much that other people are finding this kind of integration useful, both for themselves and for their clients; that seems a rather natural progression of things, as the two approaches truly do complement each other in a variety of ways that I won’t go into here.

What surprised me was the fact that in terms of timing it all seemed to be happening in a rather contemporaneous way, in many of us, but scattered all throughout the globe.

 

 

I was very touched by this and I kind of tucked it away in my mind, to ponder over during the days and weeks to come, as I would begin to explore my own way of integrating things.

 

Then, that same evening, I received a newsletter from yet another Family Constellations practitioner, who lives in yet another far-flung country, announcing how she is also integrating Family Constellations work with Inner Child work!!

Now what seemed to be possibly a mere coincidence truly began to ring of something “spooky at a distance” happening.

I know that most physicists would cringe at my applying that expression, which refers to particles being entangled at a subatomic, or quantum, level, to connections between human minds and cultural trends. I am certainly not a physicist, and so although I have read numerous books on these topics and have been studying how they can correlate with human experience for years, I most certainly do not consider myself an expert on any of it.

But after over 35 years of focused and intentional personal exploration of how our various lenses for interpretation of reality – science, philosophy, art and religion – intertwine and interact with each other, while being distinct, I can’t help but wonder if these experiences aren’t examples of how we experience this dimension of reality.

We are rightly skeptical about drawing correlations when we are dealing with subjective, or personal, experience, and our scientific method has most certainly helped humanity become more capable of drawing objective conclusions about reality, which have allowed us to advance in ways we could have never imagined.

But subjective experience is also a fundamental aspect of our existence, and many thinkers, even within more purely scientific realms, are becoming more courageous about affirming the importance of recognizing how objective and subjective reality are deeply intertwined, and how they then express into human culture through new ideas and practices, which advance our understanding of ourselves and our world, and how we can live better within it.

I have also noticed a kind of synchronicity in how Antonio Mercurio, the founder of the therapeutic and anthropological approach that he began developing in the 1970s and that I specialized in Italy in the 1990s and early 2000s, began first sharing his ideas when working with others around the same time as Bert Hellinger, who was in Germany.

While their general ideas and approaches have many differences, there are also some fundamental similarities in how they saw the challenges that face people who are struggling with a variety of mental and emotional issues.

Their common experiences of having begun both as priests within the Catholic church, who then left the church to found their own schools of thought and practice with a phenomenological approach at their foundation, seems serendipitous, or, in the words of Carl Jung, synchronous.

There are many, many examples of this throughout history, way before there was the internet and our now instantaneous ability to access information of any type. I am sure you have noticed such coincidences within your own life as well.

I invite you to reflect on this and, if you have an example to share, please do so in the comments. It seems important to be able to notice how we are connected with each other in these mysterious, yet profound, ways.

As we become able to observe them with greater consciousness and appreciation, we can strengthen our positive, creative, life-enhancing bonds with others, wherever we may be.

 

If you’re interested in learning more about Jung’s Collective Unconscious and Rupert Sheldrake’s Morphic Fields, I’ve written a companion article comparing these two fascinating ideas:

Collective Unconscious or Morphic Fields? Two Ways of Understanding Human Connectedness

 Click here or on the title above to check it out. 

 

Amo Ergo Sum

by | Dec 16, 2015 | Whole-Person Counseling and LifeArt Consulting, Cosmoartistic Anthropology, Essays on Living, Existential Personalistic Anthropology, Family, Love, Self-Love and Self-Care

  happy holidays from the center for the development of the person  

“If we did not have our wounds to heal and we only had the Beauty of Life, we would become static and immobile in the ephemeral enjoyment of Beauty” – Antonio Mercurio

Here we are, in the holiday season, and at the end of yet another year with the beginning of a new one just around the corner!

I have been thinking a lot, recently, about love, and hate.

Of course, with the things that are happening around the world, the violence and the hunger and the warming earth, it can be easy to get caught up in thinking that we are never going to get this right, and that we are doomed to destroy ourselves, each other, and this beautiful and delicate globe we call our home.

But then ….. I manage to step back a moment, and remember where I have come from, and look at the progress that others I know are making as well, and I can see that there is much more to all of this than meets the eye.

There is nothing more challenging, and yet more moving and wonderful, than delving into our very lives, with all our wounds, and pain, and loss, and deciding to transform all of that darkness into love, beauty and new creativity.

Every time we manage to shift our focus from resentment to forgiveness (which does not, necessarily, mean reconciliation – the transformation must happen on both sides for that to happen, when too much pain has been caused – but we can forgive, and let go of the pain, hatred and self-justifiable anger); from the need to retaliate or obtain justice to a desire to activate our ability to create beauty in even the most difficult of situations, we are releasing precious energy into our own lives, into the lives of others, and into the Whole of which we are each a single cell.

The more of us that choose to truly experience this, and activate this type of existential Art within their own beings and their own lives, the more we can contribute to the transformative process that Life has entrusted to us as a species.

This is, in essence, what is captured in the affirmation “Amo, ergo sum” – I love, therefore I am: as Antonio Mercurio has so eloquently pointed out, the ability to create love and beauty is both a great gift, and a great task assigned to us. While we must use our ability to think (“Cogito ergo sum”), to use our higher mind, as Descartes declaimed centuries ago, ushering in a new (and most certainly necessary) era of rationality, the time now has come to activate our hearts, in concert with our minds.

Only our hearts can bring us to the kind of deep integration that can heal our own wounds and further the healing process in the entire species.

It is my sincere hope that we can all open our hearts – and our minds – this season, and realize that we are not each others’ enemies, no matter where we are from, what religion we profess, which political party we adhere to, or how much money or education we have, or don’t have: we are each one of us human beings, here to learn to love our own lives and see them for the gift that they are, and work together to create ever new levels of love and beauty.

My best to all, and may each one of us come to know how truly loved and precious we truly are, because when we discover that, and truly understand it, we discover the same thing is true of every other Life

That is when Peace on Earth becomes possible, as it begins within each one of us.

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764px-La_Vierge,_l'Enfant_Jésus_et_sainte_Anne,_by_Leonardo_da_Vinci,_from_C2RMF_retouched Leonardo da Vinci, The Virgin and Child with St. Anne

As Antonio Mercurio pointed out to me a few years ago, this painting shows beautifully what a gaze of love is, from mother to daughter to son/grandson (even above and beyond the purely Christian connotation).

I look at it often (I have a print of it in my office), and I show it to my clients, to remember to gaze upon ourselves with that kind of love. When we can love ourselves freely and responsibly (free from our conditioning and from commitments made from obligation), we can love others with truth and authenticity, and also open ourselves to receive love in a healthy, balanced way.